Good day, Dear Nation Builder,
You’re welcome to a new week, and happy new month!
According to the dictionary, ‘conflict’ means to be at odds (with): to disagree or be incompatible,” or “a clash or disagreement, often violent, between two or more opposing groups or individuals.”
For instance, during the monthly conversation, someone asked this question: “What do you do if you feel your spouse is actively standing against your life’s purpose?”
While it may come in varying degrees, the a truth is that in marriage, there will be seasons or situations where you and your spouse disagree or have different opinions on a matter. If these disagreements are not handled well, they may result in conflict.
How then do you resolve or avoid conflicts in the home?
- Pray about it:
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” – Philippians 4:6 NIV
Prayer is very important in the life of a believer and in marriage because it brings unity and invites divine wisdom into any situation.
During the session, my dear wife, Dr. Kemi who was our guest, shared practical examples of how she would first pray about certain ideas she believes God wants her to execute before discussing them with me. When she eventually shares them, she usually gets her desired response. If couples learn to pray about critical issues first before discussing them, they are more likely to reach better agreements without conflict. It’s equally important to pray over issues together as a couple.
- Communicate with Love:
“Don’t say anything that would hurt another
person. Instead, speak only what is good so that you can give help wherever it is needed.That way, what you say will help those who
hear you.” – Ephesians 4:29 GW
When we constantly remind ourselves to speak edifying words to our partners, we’ll find that communication becomes more enjoyable. To achieve better communication, do your best to avoid harsh words, and focus on understanding your spouse’s perspective without being judgmental.
Task for the week:
Identify one area in your marriage where you and your spouse may not fully agree. Take time to pray about it first, then sit down together and communicate with love, considering each other’s perspective. In all, aim to find common ground.
God bless you!
David Oyedepo Jnr.